tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post5076683926268589407..comments2024-03-23T23:07:18.767+01:00Comments on MAY ALL SEASONS BE SWEET TO THEE: Failure To Thrive: Mommy Doesn't Always Know BestDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13347524768245781298noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-56967388190689321042011-11-29T21:15:18.383+01:002011-11-29T21:15:18.383+01:00I think that being a mom is not as natural as we t...I think that being a mom is not as natural as we think. There are just so many things we don't know. That's so wonderful that Raffi is doing so well!<br /><br />My daughter had more long-term feeding issues that I didn't know how to help. I found this great website http://childrenandbabiesnoteating.com/ that really helped me understand that a lot of parents have trouble feeding their children adequately and helped me find the help I needed.<br /><br />All the best to you both! JennyJennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-77157367485372092292011-10-29T15:47:28.483+02:002011-10-29T15:47:28.483+02:00Yes, find a La Leche League group! I am a leader ...Yes, find a La Leche League group! I am a leader here and we just had a mom go through the same thing. It happens, don't beat yourself up.kellyhttp://www.theprettybee.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-15041183827807902052011-10-28T01:55:39.757+02:002011-10-28T01:55:39.757+02:00I am a little worried about you since no recent po...I am a little worried about you since no recent posts. I know new mommies can be emotional after giving birth (even without giving birth! I was that way and I adopted!) <br />Do not beat yourself up. It is all new to you and the doctors should have given you a heads up as to "things to watch for" and all that. <br />I do hope you connected with LaLeche League for nursing advice and help! They are so supportive and understanding.<br />And I had to post as anonymous because the google thing did not work....grrr!<br />Rose Lefebvre poetrose24@comcast.netAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-74289649007060474242011-10-26T22:58:55.132+02:002011-10-26T22:58:55.132+02:00Dearest Dawn, I hope things are going smoothly for...Dearest Dawn, I hope things are going smoothly for you and little Raffi now. He is a lucky little boy to have such a sweet mom. We can't know everything and that is why there are doctors to help us all through life. Sending you and Raffi big hugs! Love, Sherry xxxxMerrieSherriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00034978465563959966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-65758701729726034422011-10-26T12:08:23.520+02:002011-10-26T12:08:23.520+02:00Dear Dawn
Don't be so hard on yourself. You ar...Dear Dawn<br />Don't be so hard on yourself. You are an amazing mum. Not all aspects of mothering come naturally. If something was seriously wrong with him you would have known. He was not thriving but he remained healthy and I think it is wonderful that you have been quite relaxed about his growth. I was really stressed when I had my first and was obsessed with her weight gain - for my 2nd I was way more relaxed. Being stressed is not good for baby. These are early days for you and your little boy - things will become more natural for you, make sure you continue to trust yourself. xxxHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07654995193578848394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-74527805400638694992011-10-26T06:13:54.544+02:002011-10-26T06:13:54.544+02:00Dear Dawn,
Your honestly is so refreshing----I...Dear Dawn, <br />Your honestly is so refreshing----I've recommended your blog to two of my own daughters as 'life learning.' Both absolutely LOVED your description of the birth of Raffi....you are an incredible mom.....and he is a blessed little baby!<br />xo<br />Joannthe REAL girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14274364426380668407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-61324942047556104582011-10-24T03:32:58.429+02:002011-10-24T03:32:58.429+02:00Dawn,
Please don't be hard on yourself. What i...Dawn,<br />Please don't be hard on yourself. What in the world was that doctor thinking? Why didn't he just say, you need to supplement your baby with a bottle rather than make you feel so bad? Breastfeeding is supposed to be so wonderful and I totally understand the benefits, but there is NO WAY that you will know exactly how much the baby is getting,unlike a measured bottle. My baby was also a skinny baby. I made the decision myself to give him a bottle along with breastfeeding. I was told by EVERYONE that my baby would refuse the breast if given a bottle...that was a bunch of nonsense. My husband really enjoyed being the one to give him a bottle at night... perhaps that could be something special that your family could do too?<br />YOU ARE A WONDERFUL MOM AND DON'T YOU FORGET IT.Kay G.http://www.georgiagirlwithanenglishheart.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-32980609318817545692011-10-24T02:14:46.283+02:002011-10-24T02:14:46.283+02:00My grandma had to teach my mom to wake up her babi...My grandma had to teach my mom to wake up her babies if they hadn't finished feeding before they went to sleep. The first time she did this my grandma just plugged the baby's nose so that it would wake up. My mom laughed so hard she wet herself.Hannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-92165831634216533592011-10-23T15:46:10.989+02:002011-10-23T15:46:10.989+02:00You are a great mom! You love your son and you car...You are a great mom! You love your son and you care about him! And you are on a steep learning curve of getting to know your little guy and help him get to know the world. And he is smiling to you - ain't that great :-)<br />Not all things that are natural are learned instinctively, they have to be learned by others who know (midwives, doctors, ...), and sometimes things can get so wrong (and not everyone is as honest as you are). Even if you are ninth time mother there is so much to learn form each little baby and its very special needs. I think it is really great that you stick to breast feeding, as it can be tiring and difficult at times. There might be a "breast feeding support" (e.g. la leche liga) group or a "mother-baby group" close to where you live, I used to got to our local Eltern-Kind-Beratung every once in a while...<br />A big virtual hug!Reginahttp://www.miaderoca.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-202915047518150772011-10-23T12:39:30.452+02:002011-10-23T12:39:30.452+02:00Love what everyone else said Dawn! You are a GREA...Love what everyone else said Dawn! You are a GREAT mom!! That little boy is just plain Lucky he picked the right mom. xoxoSusan Branchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11912322645581549978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-82032771680739727552011-10-23T09:14:39.079+02:002011-10-23T09:14:39.079+02:00First off I want to give you a massive cyber-hug, ...First off I want to give you a massive cyber-hug, because it is clear how much this has upset you! I'm not going to write anything about "not beating yourself up" because I know how pointless that is as becoming a mother is a strange time when suddenly even the tiniest slip up makes you question yourself for days. What I do want to say though is that you didn't fail! You spent hours each day nursing and caring for your little man and had no way of knowing he wasn't getting exactly what he needed. And the very fact that you threw yourself straight into the new routine without a second thought because you would do anything for your little guy shows, to me at least, that you are the best mother Raffi could ever ask for and failure should never come into your vocabulary xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-91389328106783021962011-10-23T07:14:02.133+02:002011-10-23T07:14:02.133+02:00Oh please don't feel bad about yourself! I'...Oh please don't feel bad about yourself! I've worked in early childhood for more than ten years and I can promise you nobody ever has all of the answers and parents and care givers alike often are at a loss for what to do with their baby or small child. They don't come with a handbook and we all just do the best we can, truly. Sadly being a parent is full of worries and guilt! I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job with Raffi, and remember you are new at this so don't beat yourself up for not being a newborn expert :) So glad you were able to find a solution that makes you both happy. Take care xKerrihttp://songsoflight.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-50912111720237234662011-10-22T16:06:58.279+02:002011-10-22T16:06:58.279+02:00You're an amazing mama- don't beat yoursel...You're an amazing mama- don't beat yourself up. I'm happy to hear that the little guy is gaining his weight and napping for longer bouts of time:). He's such a cutie. And he is so loved, I'm sure he feels it all around him:).<br /><br />I hope you're having a nice weekend with your boys. xox, BlairBlairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13514289673997519308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-77584348488403345982011-10-22T02:01:58.090+02:002011-10-22T02:01:58.090+02:00Dear Dawn, I know that you were disappointed to he...Dear Dawn, I know that you were disappointed to hear "failure to thrive"..it sounds so severe and negative...when, simply your feeding routine needed adjustment. Your sweet Raffi will continue to gain and get back on track. I raised two breast-fed and one bottle-baby...makes no difference in their health and happiness in my experience. The most important thing is to do what is best for your baby. I called the nurse at the Pediatrician's office quite often in the beginning...do not hesitate to ask questions...Also, you will feel like a new woman once YOU get rest and fresh air and some time to yourself...You are already an amazing mother. Go easy on yourself right now, sweetie..xoxoLaura B Jenkinsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-58731031374654450242011-10-21T20:04:33.020+02:002011-10-21T20:04:33.020+02:00Don't beat yourself up. I have known other mo...Don't beat yourself up. I have known other mothers have the same experience. My son was adopted, but the first 4 days in the hospital, he would not eat for the nurses and they said he was having failure to thrive. And these were professionals feeding him! He finally would eat for me. <br />La Leche league deals with breast feeding and their volunteers are more than eager to assist new mothers in proper techniques, problems, etc. I am not sure it was ever suggested to you.<br />You are doing well, and sometimes things happen when a new mother without experience. I am sure many of us would have made the same mistake! You are and will continue to be a great mother. Hang in there.Rose Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07180873324576064516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-80277742346009791442011-10-21T14:14:53.234+02:002011-10-21T14:14:53.234+02:00Don't be hard on yourself dear, these things h...Don't be hard on yourself dear, these things happens frequently expecially with the first baby. So,you have learned now and stick to the routine because babies do need a schedule!Lots of love<br />mamma carlaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-65003886536426902282011-10-21T08:38:40.849+02:002011-10-21T08:38:40.849+02:00ciao Dawn, I'm sure if you ask all new mammas ...ciao Dawn, I'm sure if you ask all new mammas everyone has a different story while adjusting what nurses tell them about breast feeding and reality. Do not feel you did something so wrong, you have made experience, all the best to you and Raffael <br />madamadaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-57379079831504701822011-10-21T07:08:09.891+02:002011-10-21T07:08:09.891+02:00ooops had to delete my comment... too many spellin...ooops had to delete my comment... too many spelling mistakes...here we go again<br /><br />Oh my dearest friend...<br />You are doing such such such an amazing job. Your instinct was to provide for your baby and that's exactly what you were doing. It wasn't your fault or anyone's fault that Raphael wasn't getting everything he needed, it's unfortunate and of course (because you love him so much) you feel bad... but it wasn't your fault. It's a blessing that your doctor was able to see that there was a problem and that she was able to get you the help that you needed.<br />I'm so happy to hear that you get to continue nursing and that Raffi is getting that extra little bit that he needs. It sounds like a good solution!<br />There are so many bumps in the road with little ones. Each child is different and has their own needs. It's all a learning process, trial and error.The most important thing is that you were all able to solve the problem and now are on the path to more of a routine. <br />You are one amazing mama and deserve a big pat on the back for doing so well. <br />xoxo hugs to you and a squeeze to baby Raffi!Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00341166590919510790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-16636674111007263252011-10-21T07:03:40.593+02:002011-10-21T07:03:40.593+02:00This comment has been removed by the author.Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00341166590919510790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-35357752698647979622011-10-21T04:30:02.625+02:002011-10-21T04:30:02.625+02:00Please don't be too hard on yourself sweetie,i...Please don't be too hard on yourself sweetie,it happens a lot to first time mom's. It happened with my sister-in-law too and you should see her baby now, he 6'2" and a dad himself. Once the baby gets the formula and you get to rest between feedings all will be well. I don't know how you held up to feeding Raffi every 15 minutes, my "girls" couldn't take that, if you get my drift. <br />You are a good mom, we all learn as we go no matter how many books we read, it's not the same as doing it. Good having another mom you can compare notes with, it helps a lot.<br />Hope you are now seeing what it should be like, you do get little breaks and before long dear little Raffi will be sleeping all night long. My boys were 8.8 oz. and 9.5 oz., they both had to be supplemented with formula.Sandra Gillandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17784812302381420497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-70886783842920134752011-10-20T23:07:29.383+02:002011-10-20T23:07:29.383+02:00Oh heavens, don't beat yourself up! One day yo...Oh heavens, don't beat yourself up! One day you will look back on all this and laugh. Sixteen years ago, I so admired my three-day-old's lovely golden skin tone, proudly envisioning what he would look like as a handsome young man on the beach. Then my mother came, said he was "orange as a pumpkin," and off we went to the hospital. He was severely jaundiced and spent the next three days being fed intravenously under a billi-light unit! Live, learn and laugh!<br /><br />Peace,<br />Chris........Chris in the Emerald Cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01429047363666844688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-47670870953504053312011-10-20T20:21:58.451+02:002011-10-20T20:21:58.451+02:00It's also hard to see what's happening slo...It's also hard to see what's happening slowly in front of your eyes. It takes fresh eyes to notice that kind of weight loss. He'll do fine -- and this is why we have doctors and checkups! :-PDea-chanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00140404243041621186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-63652737606687602942011-10-20T19:31:00.118+02:002011-10-20T19:31:00.118+02:00Sending hugs too!! My Mom had a baby scales for us...Sending hugs too!! My Mom had a baby scales for us that she used while nursing. Not as popular now, but thought I'd mention it. <br /><br />EliseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-49373461687144266392011-10-20T19:30:04.441+02:002011-10-20T19:30:04.441+02:00Oh honey...I wouldn't beat yourself up too muc...Oh honey...I wouldn't beat yourself up too much! Your new to this and this is why we have doctors and check-ups. You caught the problem in time and THAT is what matters. So glad to hear everything is back on track! :) xxxThe Curious Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16920550974303475865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2933344524775641198.post-19600136845000309882011-10-20T18:33:34.378+02:002011-10-20T18:33:34.378+02:00Ah, sweetie, this could happen to anyone. Being a ...Ah, sweetie, this could happen to anyone. Being a good mom doesn't mean you can always make everything go right. It just means you try your best. Part of it is taking your baby to the pediatrician to make sure everything is on track, which you did. And now everything is on track, because of you, because you're a good mom who loves her son dearly and is doing everything she can to help him grow up happy and healthy. Being a new mom is one of the hardest things a person can do and you're doing a wonderful job. Give yourself hug for that! xoxoJaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04163283732112508901noreply@blogger.com